Tears have their place ladies, but not the bedroom. Tears have chemosignals that impact testosterone, according to recent research, and men lose a little of their libido when we cry. The study was not conducted to prove anything about love, dating or sex. Rather, the study was conducted to find out more about the nature of tears, because emotional crying is a uniquely human trait. Could proving tears have chemical signals in part explain why we cry?
Chemosignals are pheromones that we secrete. Our body secretes nasal trails about our character, mood and genes. Our sweat stinks, but tears just taste salty; they don’t really “smell.” Apparently, they do, enough to turn a guy off. As part of the study researchers had men take a blind sniff test. The men sniffed freshly cried tears shed by women who just watched a sad movie, versus a saline solution. According to the researchers, “We found that merely sniffing negative-emotion-related, odorless tears obtained from women donors induced reductions in sexual appeal attributed by men to pictures of women’s faces. Moreover, after sniffing such tears, men experienced reduced self-rated sexual arousal, reduced physiological measures of arousal, and reduced levels of testosterone.” This happened without any of the men actually seeing any of the women cry. Odorless tears must, like sweat, also carry chemosignals.
Crying, and why we cry, has always been somewhat of an evolutionary mystery. Our eyes need to be moist, but we don’t “need” to cry. According to ophthalmologist Dr. Ebroon’s site, “In order for the eye to remain healthy, it must remain moist. The lacrimal gland is a specialized gland located under the outer one-third of the upper eyelid that makes tears. Each time you blink, the eyelid spreads the tears over the surface of the eye and pumps excess tears into a “duct” that drains the tears into your nose. That is why your nose runs when you cry.” Okay, so that’s why we have moist eyes. Now, most animals with movable eyes have the ability to cry, but they don’t usually. Not to elicit emotional responses anyway. But why do we cry? Let’s face it, even if we are socialized to not cry at work, or in certain circumstances (now the bedroom), must of us are born into this world screaming and crying our eyes out.
Most human evolution theories postulate we cry to elicit empathy. It’s something that you usually only see when you’re close to a person, unlike for example, hand waving. For some evolutionary reason science hasn’t fully uncovered, we cry. Here’s the thing, even if tears do have chemical signals, why do we cry sometimes alone? Crying is, for many adults, a very private act. Indeed, many of us cry alone, in the privacy of a bathroom. Maybe we are chemosignaling to ourselves. Yes, there is some research done by Dr. Michael Frey from the St. Paul-Ramsey Medical Center that suggests we may shed tears to release certain stress chemicals. In fact, as part of an experiment Frey had subjects smell onions and watch sad movies, the tears that were shed were chemically different.
Back to the study at hand, does this mean though that tears induce empathy? Meaning empathy is a turn off to men? Maybe, when it comes to the sack, yes. Ask any guy and he’d probably say he didn’t need a scientific study to figure out that it’s a turn-off when the tears start rolling.
Why don’t other animals cry? Well, some do, but most mammals do not cry. Sure dogs and cats whine to get food, but do they shed tears? No. Thank goodness, it’d be a lot harder to resist giving Fido a cookie if the family pet actually starting shedding crocodile tears. For anyone wondering, crocodiles do in fact shed tears, in fact they weep a little when they are eating. Maybe crocodiles are the ultimate foodies, truly moved to tears with every bite. Super unsexy, however, is the horned lizard. The horned lizard cries blood.
Next time you’re in the bedroom and you feel the urge to cry and you do — great. You got it out of your “system” literally, through your eyes. Thank your sweetie for being a great guy, and try to reserve the tears for more appropriate situations — like a public place.
Crying in public, now there’s another great way to woo a man.